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Answers to my most commonly asked questions.

What is a talking therapy?

A talking therapy is exactly what it says on the tin! Within my sessions I encourage you to discuss whatever comes to mind and no topics are off limit. You don’t need to plan for our sessions.

How long will I be in therapy ? How long do the sessions last?

I offer 6 sessions of therapy initially. In session 5 we can discuss if you would like to have additional sessions.

Sessions last 50 minutes and are offered through the Zoom platform. Zoom is very user friendly and easy to install!

Another popular service I offer is 25-minute solution focus sessions that are for individuals working on a specific short-term goal. These goals or a goal can usually be achieved within 3 to 5 sessions.

If you would prefer a one-off session for those times an issue may arise, and you would like to talk it through with an accredited professional then please feel free to contact me and we can set up a one-off session.

Do I need a diagnosis to go to therapy?

Not at all. It saddens me that we still have a stigma around accessing psychological support in this day and age. Therapy is about self-development and growth which may also include a process of unlearning. I don’t pathologize my clients and any formal diagnosis you may have is only of use if it helps you.

Perhaps you may not even feel that you have a ‘problem’ to solve but would simply value space to talk to an impartial qualified professional in complete confidence.

Is there much of a difference between Counselling and Psychotherapy?

Short answer – no!

What can I talk about?

Anything and everything. You decide which issues concerning your childhood and/or adulthood you want to explore.

I can help you positively notice any emerging themes, patterns, and psychological defence mechanisms which may be significantly impacting your life and relationships.

Often when we’re in something it can be hard to see the woods for the trees. Therapy helps us helicopter above and give us a clearer line of sight.

Are your needs being met?

We are all born knowing what our needs are. As babies we instinctively indicate to others what we want – food, warmth, a cuddle – but as we grow that inner guidance can get muffled. Over time we are conditioned by family, society and our culture to think, feel and act a certain way.

We may learn to keep our feelings private in case we are judged or rejected, and we feel selfish for putting ourselves first.

The result?

We run around trying to live up to everyone else’s expectations! We feel tangled up, burned out, confused, frustrated, conflicted, anxious, depressed, ashamed, scared, guilty, and maybe even resort to self-medicating ourselves just to switch off.

We may learn to keep our feelings private in case we are judged or rejected, and we feel selfish for putting ourselves first.

How can therapy help?

Through the process of therapy, you can learn to really listen to your needs, separate out any negative or unhelpful ideas keeping you from your goals and begin the process of real self-acceptance. It’s not always an easy or linear process but the results are incredibly rewarding and often life changing.

“I’m not sure what my problem is, I just know I don’t feel OK.”

Don’t worry, you’re not alone – many people aren’t clear in the beginning and discovering where the issues lie is a natural part of the process.

What's your cancellation policy?

It is politely requested that you provide at least 48-hours’ notice if you wish to cancel or rearrange a session otherwise you will be charged in full.

What about confidentiality?

Everything discussed during our sessions will remain completely confidential and not shared with anyone else. Rare exceptions to this rule will be outlined in our initial consultation so you are clear on the boundaries.

In accordance with NCS and BABCP ethical standards I receive monthly clinical supervision where all cases discussed are totally anonymised.

Privacy, Discretion & General Data Protection Regulation (changes from the Data Protection Act 1998).The General Data Protection Regulation (GDPR) requires that you understand the nature of the data I collect about you which will be outlined during our consultation process. I am registered with the Information Commissioner’s Office and solely responsible for protecting your data and privacy. Discretion is of utmost importance to me, and your data will not be shared with anyone.

What is Mental Health Awareness Training?

Mental Health Awareness training is a course we offer which will give you the knowledge and understanding of what mental health awareness and wellness is.

Do you do any other courses related to mental health?

Yes, and we would be delighted to discuss any further courses you might feel are beneficial to you.

Do I have to be over a certain age to do one of your courses?

You must be 18 or over to do our courses.

Do you deliver courses across the UK?

We can deliver courses anywhere in Scotland in person and across the rest of the UK online.

What if a learner is apprehensive about some of the topics covered?

We understand, and every learner having a positive experience of our training is important to us. We deliver all our courses in a safe, supportive, thoughtful way.

Sometimes learners bring real life experiences to the group discussions, but we always handle them sensitively and we will make sure that everyone feels safe and grounded throughout the training and ready to leave at the end of the course confidently and safely.

The next step

If you are interested in working with a genuine, curious, and highly experienced specialist then view my services and let’s have a chat.

Patient and empathetic…

“When I first got in touch with Mer, I was looking for someone who was able to help me with stress, anxiety, and depression. So much of my stress was coming from work and I was on the verge of burnout. Mer was, on paper, the ideal person to help me and I can testify that she’s every bit as great at what she does as I could have hoped.

I wouldn’t hesitate to recommend Mer because she is patient and empathetic and everything that you could want in someone to talk to about problems; she also has a no-nonsense approach and is able to get to the core of matters, filtering the important from the less-so. She helps guide people to finding their own solutions to challenges, carefully offering just the right amount of support that, in future, they can feel more confident about finding their own solutions but providing more help and guidance when needed. She also knows business very well which, as a working professional and business owner, was of great benefit.I am so very grateful to her and can’t recommend her services enough.”

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